I constantly feel this need to explain myself about being without children. Its not that too many people have asked me about it yet, probably because I am still young, so to say. But, I keep thinking about the moment when all those questions will start coming. What will I say? Will I feel guilty? Will I regret my decision? I don’t know. No one … Continue reading Why the need to explain our choices?
Today I have some time in office. Its the 29th December and there is hardly any work. My mind drifts to far away places during such times and usually I don’t mind that. 2016 has been awesome to A and me, career wise and personally. We both changed our jobs for good and he even started studying. I honestly do not understand how people can … Continue reading End of the year blues
Last week my very pregnant friend P asked me if I would be willing to suggest her some baby names. I thought it was nice that she asked me. Naming something makes it so much more personal, doesn’t it? Whether it’s a cat, a dog or a baby, once its named, there’s a new connection there. I suggested her a couple of girl names. She … Continue reading Is it OK to question your decision?
A woman’s body changes a lot during pregnancy and not all things that can go wrong can be predicted, which makes it no easier on the mother to be. I have no idea how women, who know all of which happens, cope from the fear, or yet, feel no fear. Are they being ignorant or brave? I will never know. One of my close friends … Continue reading Are there legitimate reasons to be scared of pregnancy?
Telling parents about your decision to remain childfree will be one of the most difficult thing to do. While it is important to understand that they are coming from a good place, when they suggest the ten thousandth time, it is ultimately your decision whether or not to have a baby. In Indian culture, usually, the parents tend to help out when a couple has … Continue reading How to tell your parents about your decision to remain childfree?
I was in Florida this week for a business trip and dined with our team at a fancy restaurant one of the nights. During the dinner talking about everyone’s children was an obvious hot topic. They complained some and they were proud some. It was an amusing mixture and I almost didn’t mind the conversation. Then someone brought up that one of their friends daughter had decided … Continue reading Life choices of the childfree
Let me start by saying that being child free is a new and unexplored territory for me. There are so many things I wish to write about this topic and merely one post just won’t cover it. I will begin by sharing how I came upon this path of life. I grew up in a midsize town in India and in a conservative family. Once … Continue reading Making the decision to be childless by choice
Everybody knows relationships are difficult. Our parents, elders, society and just about everyone urges the young ones to get married at a decent age. They carefully choose words to scare the hell out of us if we do not do so. However, nobody teaches us or explains how to really make it work before we take that step. You are expected to “make it work”. … Continue reading Relationships
Its that time of the year where A has an outing for about 3-4 days in the week for a company sponsored conference on Microsoft Dynamics. Sometimes it’s in Raliegh, NC, sometimes in New Orleans, LS and this time its in St. Louis, MO. It’s the sort of thing where there are lectures in the daytime and then companies pamper their prospective consumers/customers with booze, … Continue reading That time of the year
This world has several views about how a woman should lead an ideal life. These views change with the century, region and also the situation in life that the woman is facing. They always have and probably always will. I feel compelled to discuss the three most common and fairly important experiences that a woman has in today’s world, from my perspective: marriage, career and motherhood. … Continue reading A womans life: motherhood vs marriage and career